My husband and I are now at that time of our life where we are experiencing our friends getting divorced. We have life cycles: college, engagements, weddings, births of first born, births of other children. And now divorces.
Divorce is a strange thing. It’s hard to even wrap our head around it, and we are not even the party involved. We start to reminisce about the times we spent with the couple. We wonder, what happened? What was so terrible that divorce was the only option? I’m sure all married couples walk down the aisle or up the steps to the courthouse or along the sandy beach not thinking that there will be a day that this will end.
Having not done this before, it is hard for me to comprehend how one goes from “to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, till death do us part” to “this is too difficult/not worth salvaging/you’re an evil person/I don’t love you anymore/you are the spawn of Satan.”
All couples have their disagreements and arguments that can be emotionally devastating. But right now, it has never gotten so bad where leaving my husband is an option ... let alone the only option. I hope we never get to that point. Then again, I am 100 percent sure none of our friends ever thought that they would reach that point either.
I am a phone call away from my friend ready for that shoulder when she needs it. My husband has met his friends for a drink when they needed it. We come back to our home thankful it’s still there, thankful our marriage has survived another day.
Posted 10:47 AM