Since my liposarcoma diagnosis in the fall of 2014, I have had countless "new normals:" during chemo, immediately after chemo, months after chemo, during radiation, immediately after radiation, after surgery and anesthesia, and so on. I knew my life would change after receiving my diagnosis, but I had no idea how many "new" normals I would experience — and that they would change just after I got used to them.
For 2016, I want normal. "New" signifies something has changed. I want to get to a regular, plain old, ordinary, ho-hum normal. I want to know what I can eat and how it will affect me — all the way through. Will I like the taste and/or texture now? Will it give me heartburn? Will it make me feel nauseous or will it gurgle around awhile in my stomach? Will I need to be near a toilet or can I stray farther afield?
As I recover from three tumor-removal surgeries, I want to know what kinds of activities and exercises I can do without needing a week to recover. How much of these can I do without feeling exhausted for the next two or three days?
I want a "normal" back when interacting with family, friends and coworkers. I want to feel that when they ask me how I am doing, it's a normal "how are you" rather than a "how are you as a person who has cancer?" I want to know that when they say, "I like your short hair," they mean just that and not "I like your short hair, so don't feel bad that it fell out due to chemotherapy." Most importantly, I want to be able to take "you look really good" as a simple compliment and not as "you look really good for someone who has a serious illness that many people die from."
I just want a normal, not a new one.
However, if this wish does not come true or takes a while showing up, being able to handle it and not merely survive but shine through whatever else comes first, that is not a wish. That is a certainty.
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