How do we move forward during cancer treatment? How do we get past cancer? Do we wallow in self-pity? Do we slip into depression? Do we put on a strong front? Do we shed tears in private? Do we become strong fighters? Do we move on?

Stop and Smell the Roses.My answer was in the affirmative to all of these questions. But the biggest question I had to ask myself was how was this going to change me as a person? As I searched for this answer, I quickly realized I was fortunate. Although I was an inpatient for a month, I had and have a real chance of beating a rare blood cancer.

The road ahead would mean three years of treatment. As of this writing, I am over halfway through. During my struggles both inpatient and outpatient, I met remarkable maintenance workers, cleaning crews, receptionists, technicians, nursing assistants, counselors, nurses and doctors.

The answer to my question, how would cancer define me, was found in these people. Each and every one of them gave of themselves so I could beat cancer, and I needed to honor their selflessness by becoming an advocate for others fighting cancer.

So how has cancer defined me? I volunteer as much as I can, in whatever way I can. I raise money for blood cancer research so others might have a cure. I talk with others around the country, helping them through their fight.

As I get stronger I will do more. I stop and smell the roses. I have compassion. I am at peace. I am here. I am a better person.


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About the Author

Dave Ortin is a 58-year-old retired information technology professional living in Hartford, Wis., with his wife, Andrea. Their blended family consists of five children and 14 grandchildren ranging in age from 1 year up to 22 years. Dave was diagnosed with acute promyelocytic leukemia (APL) in January of 2014 and is still receiving treatment. Dave is now paying it forward by helping others with blood cancers. He is involved with the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society's Light the Night fundraising campaign and their First Connect program. Dave still has a long journey but the prognosis is excellent.

Marcy Hunter

Thank you for this thoughtful message. Very well stated! I hope you feel stronger everyday.